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Postby JohnnySomersett on Wed May 30, 2018 4:49 pm

So, I've managed to get myself into a really shitty situation (headspace-wise). It's entirely work-related but I'm definitely trapped to an extent. I've worked for the same company for 14 years, worked my way up, gradually earn't more & more money and have been living pretty damn comfortably. I have been trying to get the opportunity to run my own shop with the company (we're a Plumbing supplier) for about 8 years and finally I got given the chance at the beginning of this year. The trouble is, instead of the usual way of being given the choice of a town local to you to open one from scratch, I've inherited an old shithole of a shop and in a town I do not know.

It's not going well. Through no fault of my own its hemorrhaging money & shows no sign of improving despite all my best efforts. This whole situation has made me realise i hate my job. I mean, really fucking hate it...to the point where I've been close to panic attacks again, my insomnia is back with a vengeance and I'm permanently miserable. I hate the industry, I hate the people and the mentality they have.

Easy fix, right? Quit your job. Done. The one key issue is that I'm completely un-qualified in anything. So I'm trapped. I know I want out of anything to do with sales and/or customer services, and after doing some long hard thinking, I know I'll be happier doing something that involves using my hands (joinery, metalwork, etc) but all of those fields need me to have some level of qualification to even start at the bottom...and the bottom isn't going to cover the basic bills we have. I turned 36 yesterday and an apprentice wage wont cover the mortgage. I have found some evening/weekend courses but that's going to set me back £5000+ to get halfway there, then I have to find a job that will take me at this age, with low experience.

I have no idea what to do and it's spiralling pretty rapidly.
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Re: Post while you are depressed thread

Postby JohnnyDoglands on Wed May 30, 2018 6:55 pm

JohnnySomersett wrote:Easy fix, right? Quit your job. Done. The one key issue is that I'm completely un-qualified in anything. So I'm trapped.


You have 14 years experience in the plumbing supplies industry. I bet you know a shitload about it. Time served is very important and often employers are more interested in your recent employment experience than your qualifications. Plus you have supervisory/management experience, I bet lots of places are looking for that.

If you'd rather re-train, then have a look into what kind of funding the Learning and Skills Council/ your local college provide. You may need to be unemployed to get access to the funding (say you need it to increase your employability as you can't find a job). I did this myself a couple of years ago and it worked wonders for me.

I know from experience what a massive bummer being unemployed is, but you do currently have a job, so you could always bank some money before you leave for medical reasons. Make sure you and your employer are aware you are leaving for medical reasons (go see your GP about depression, get yourself some medically ordered time off, your employer can't argue with that) and you will have less shit to deal with from the jobcentre if you have to make a claim. You've paid your taxes so you have put plenty into the system and should be able to take some out if you want.

With regards to staying employed, I've been through the whole 'job driving me nuts' thing, it's very very common. The way I've tried to deal with it is to always give myself something to look forward to. Time off, holiday, music projects, whatever. If you don't have anything to look forward to it can really get you down.

(This is not some cheery person trying to dish out advice. I have suffered/do suffer from suicidal thoughts and depression and I know what it's like. Each individual's situation is different, but we do what we can to help each other out.)
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