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Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Tue May 15, 2012 10:56 pm
by Rachi
I don't have anything to add here. I would just like to acknowledge the fact that I sat here and shed a tear for John.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Wed May 16, 2012 3:07 am
by total_douche
I don't think there's anything I can say that won't sound banal or stupid, but if there's anything I can take away from reading all of this, it's that worrying about sounding banal or stupid is probably a waste of time.

I have been very guilty of never chiming in with a word of support or engaging in conversations about bad news, online and in real life. I've always felt that it's not my place and that there is nothing I can contribute to such things that wouldn't have a diminishing effect. Call it a lack of self-esteem. Call it a fear of sounding like an asshole no matter what I do. You could probably just call me an asshole. Those would all probably be true.

That's exactly why I didn't say much about this when I first read about it. All I could think was: "Man, this really sucks. This man is going to die. I have nothing to say of any real importance. It'd be best if I just shut my big stupid mouth and kept out of it."

Enter feelings of regret.

The more I read about him, the more I feel like I did when Dio died. "I wish I knew this guy."

If you're out there, John, you were a king among men, if for no other reason than facing death in ways that should make any average person feel (and look) like a total wuss. I can only hope that, when my time comes, I can face the reaper with the same courage.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Thu May 17, 2012 5:44 am
by Frank Decent
I am glad this page exists and that it is so easily accessible within the forum. It's a great thing, not only because it's a wonderful tribute to a seriously cool man, but it can act as a powerful message. Everyone knows this life is short, but read this thread and really understand it. Let John's legacy be the thing that finally kicks your ass outta bed to do those things you put off. Read these pages and then go kick the shit out of your fear and indecision. Let a real man show you how to love your life.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Thu May 17, 2012 11:45 am
by John W.
I'm listening to the record on Bandcamp right now. I'm only on the second song and feel completely transported - this is something amazing - awesome in the true sense of the word. I've been following John's story since the beginning, always in complete awe. His dogged determination and creative motivation amidst all he was going through leaves me wide-eyed, mouth open, and immensely grateful - grateful for his gift of pure hope.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Fri May 18, 2012 9:35 am
by vish
This is sad and amazing. Thanks for sharing this. Listening to The Strain now.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Fri May 18, 2012 1:56 pm
by steve
Not sad. I know what you mean but the one thing it is not is sad. There wasn't a sad moment in the whole enterprise.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Fri May 18, 2012 4:05 pm
by givemenoughrope
There have been a few people in my life I've lost to cancer. Two of them are now passed on but I think about them quite a bit and how they lived and died. The other wasn't as courageous and has actually left a much bigger and emptier ugly whole in my life than I would have thought possible. Reading John's story really illustrates the difference between the two for me and I'm truly grateful to him for that.

John Grabski, you are/were one courageous dude! Thank You!

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Fri May 18, 2012 6:59 pm
by vish
I see your point. It's definitely inspiring. Encouraging even that we might be capable of carrying ourselves in such a way.

If it's difficult (or "sad"), it's for the loss of such a strong, admirable person.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Fri May 18, 2012 7:05 pm
by lemur68
givemenoughrope wrote:There have been a few people in my life I've lost to cancer. Two of them are now passed on but I think about them quite a bit and how they lived and died. The other wasn't as courageous


This probably isn't the thread to be getting into such a discussion, but how exactly does one un-courageously deal with having cancer?

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Sun May 20, 2012 5:36 am
by HOUSTON_M
lemur68 wrote:
givemenoughrope wrote:There have been a few people in my life I've lost to cancer. Two of them are now passed on but I think about them quite a bit and how they lived and died. The other wasn't as courageous


This probably isn't the thread to be getting into such a discussion, but how exactly does one un-courageously deal with having cancer?


One doesn't know for sure until one has it, I'd say. The colleagues and neighbours I've known have dealt with cancer in an admirable way. They all died though.

The memorial page is very impressive.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Sun May 20, 2012 2:32 pm
by tmidgett
HOUSTON_M wrote:
lemur68 wrote:
givemenoughrope wrote:There have been a few people in my life I've lost to cancer. Two of them are now passed on but I think about them quite a bit and how they lived and died. The other wasn't as courageous


This probably isn't the thread to be getting into such a discussion, but how exactly does one un-courageously deal with having cancer?


One doesn't know for sure until one has it, I'd say. The colleagues and neighbours I've known have dealt with cancer in an admirable way. They all died though.


If you go down railing against your nurses and ungrateful family, and equivocating about your life, that's dealing with it in a cowardly fashion.

It's a kind of privilege to see someone die well. A lot of strong people die weakly. It's dying, after all. And watching a weak person die is especially unpleasant.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Sun May 20, 2012 2:49 pm
by Rémy
I wasn't aware of that story and was aking myself what was the PRF.
A very moving writtings from Steve. I didn't know John but I guess his story gonna help me to deal with life in general speaking. Very very moving.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Sun Jun 17, 2012 11:22 am
by gnangle
just got home last week from my mother in laws funeral. i have spent the last two and a half years with my wife helping take care of her. she was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer having never smoked a cigarette in her life.she was 60. she didnt complain or protest once. in the same way that john chose to die she did too. we sat with her while she died and she did everything she wanted to do.she died with dignity,not scared not fighting a loosing battle but with grace and so drugged up she couldnt blink.thinking of her all skinny in that bed, i knew that the previous year she had spent doing all the important things she wanted to do,knowing full well what lay ahead at any moment. i too felt an admiration like no other watching this happen.when you see a person face death with dignity and conviction and an unwavering force it makes you stronger,it gives you hope about your own end. even to the bitter end she knew who was in the room,where the garbage bags were and what was cooking on the stove in the next room. i could only hope to be half as brave when my time comes.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Sun Jun 17, 2012 4:08 pm
by Verge of Light
gnangle wrote:i could only hope to be half as brave when my time comes.


Very well put Greg. Sorry for your loss. I hope I have good people like you and your wife around me when I go.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Mon Jun 25, 2012 7:58 pm
by subprime
Image

Grabski raffle guitar.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Mon Jul 09, 2012 4:52 pm
by rappard
I thought I saw a link somewhere (here? Facebook?) for donations to his family, but can't recall. Can someone post it here or PM me? Thanks!

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Thu Jul 12, 2012 12:26 pm
by steve
I'd like to add links to any evidence (photos, recording, video) of Miscreant Seeds performing The Strain from the BBQ if anybody has them, post the links here and I'll add them.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Thu Jul 12, 2012 12:49 pm
by subprime
We need pics of the winner with the grabski!

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Thu Jul 12, 2012 4:38 pm
by 154
steve wrote:I'd like to add links to any evidence (photos, recording, video) of Miscreant Seeds performing The Strain from the BBQ if anybody has them, post the links here and I'll add them.


Jim and Matt E are working hard editing and mixing down close camera footage and multitrack recordings from the entire 2 days, in addition to M.S. I'm looking forward to seeing/hearing those myself, as Ben's guitar was quiet in the room.

This one has already made the FB rounds. It was taken by my g/f, who I doubt cares to be credited:

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p.s. Jodi took a group photo, hopefully she'll post it here.

Re: John Grabski III memorial page

PostPosted: Fri Jul 13, 2012 12:51 pm
by Jodi S.
154 wrote:p.s. Jodi took a group photo, hopefully she'll post it here.


Indeed I did. Keep in mind it was late, I had just turned old, and, um, well. OK HERE'S THE GODDAMNED PICTURE.

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Miscreant Seeds by samuraiphotog, on Flickr