home studios equipment staff/friends booking/rates for sale forum contact

dadness

Moderators: kerble, Electrical-Staff

Re: dadness

Postby the finger genius on Mon May 21, 2018 11:39 am

We have some of these dvds loaded on an ipad and the kids get to pick one ~8 minute video to watch after the standard 2-3 books. Watching the video helps them move on past the book time without asking for an endless # of books and they never ask for a second video since they never get one.

https://www.bestbuy.com/site/scholastic ... lsrc=aw.ds
steve wrote:...kosher sound systems.


Eighteen Hundred and Froze to Death
User avatar
the finger genius
suspicious flashlight
suspicious flashlight
 
Posts: 1388
Joined: Sat May 31, 2008 10:04 pm
Location: NJ

Re: dadness

Postby jimmy spako on Mon May 21, 2018 12:33 pm

Hey, by the way, could use some advice:

We're flying from Berlin to Seattle on Saturday, via Frankfurt. The long flight (FR>SEA) is a little over ten hours I think. We get in around noon and have rented a room downtown a few blocks from the ferries so we can take the light rail down and crash immediately if need be before moving on to Port Angeles the following day.

My little dude (coming up on 15 months) is very active, running around all the time, etc. Has just now gotten back into being able to sit down for books and stuff for more than thirty seconds. I managed to read to him for like a solid twenty minutes this morning.

How do we survive?

We don't have an extra seat for him, just one of those baby spots where there aren't supposed to be seats in front of you and you can access some sort of mini-bed bassinet thing if I have understood correctly.

He travels extremely well by train and public transport, we've done a couple twelve/thirteen hour trips door-to-door due to delays.

I wouldn't be doing this, but my dad is sick and none of my family is going to come this way anytime soon anyways. It's worth it. I am pretty anxious about the trip but really stoked for everybody to meet one another. I haven't been back in seven years. They'll be meeting my girlfriend for the first time too, after lots of email and Skype contact.
Isabelle Gall wrote:'Do not go smoothly into that dark night'
User avatar
jimmy spako
Master Of The Computer
Master Of The Computer
 
Posts: 4986
Joined: Sun Dec 02, 2007 10:49 am
Location: schnitzel circuit

Re: dadness

Postby night_tools on Mon May 21, 2018 6:45 pm

I'm sorry I don't have any wisdom Jimmy, but I will read with interest - hoping to wrangle our little dude into a flight situation before the year is out...

Hamish is 11 weeks old now. Generally variations on the themes of piss and shit. He shat while I was changing him the other day... it was like someone stamped on a bottle of French's mustard. The curtains will never be the same. I was told later in the day that he pissed on his own face (again).
He slept through the night for the first time, this week. We were correct not to get too excited about this as the next couple of nights were pretty fraught.
He's grown a bunch in the last two weeks, to the point where my puny arms get tired from holding/rocking him after about 5 mins. I need to start working out.
Since he was born, my life has been amazing, infuriating, sleepless, angry, anxious.
If my lady wasn't so wonderful I would probably be single right now.
Totally agree with the comments that having a kid places a huge strain on a relationship. I just keep having to remind myself to be a big enough guy to deal with it. The dynamic of our relationship has changed fundamentally, mainly in a very positive way... but 'date nights' will now and forever be a hugely valuable commodity and we just need to remember why we love each other - even in the most sleep-deprived, shit-up-the-back, "no it's your turn" moments.
You're a shit MD and I want my pizza money back.
User avatar
night_tools
Man with Encyclopedic Knowledge
Man with Encyclopedic Knowledge
 
Posts: 5392
Joined: Thu Apr 01, 2004 6:32 am
Location: Solar Island

Re: dadness

Postby Teacher's Pet on Mon May 21, 2018 9:02 pm

re: long flights

We went to Berlin at around this stage (1.5 years) and someone recommended a new (and previously UNSEEN) toy for the flight that would hopefully capture attention for awhile. It worked for a bit. It helped.

We had a girl, though. Them little boys are some rambunctious fuckers. Good luck.
User avatar
Teacher's Pet
urinated in reservoir
urinated in reservoir
 
Posts: 1544
Joined: Thu Jan 12, 2006 4:15 pm
Location: Brooklyn, NY

Re: dadness

Postby Verbs & Nouns on Tue May 22, 2018 11:34 pm

offal wrote:
the finger genius wrote:On the subject of it being nice to be needed -

My younger son (2 1/2) has had a really difficult time at bedtime lately, it's basically 90 minutes of getting in and out of bed, yelling, crying, etc... The past two nights after an hour or so he let me pick him up and rock him to sleep, a phase which I thought was over. As exhausting and frustrating as bedtime has been this week, I am so thankful for being able to do that and also consciously know, "Hey this is it for this. He's not going to want this much longer."


Oh man, this hits. Hits hard.

Our daughter, who is nearly 2.5, is going to bed like a champ these days (finally), but wakes up between 3:30-4:30 AM every morning wanting to talk and play. It usually takes an hour or so of bottles and coaxing to get her back down. It’s equal parts frustrating and endearing, and it throws our morning routine off completely.

But yeah, I was right there with you this morning – sitting in a rocking chair in the dark for an hour, trying to get her to drop -- and trying to sear every breath, sniff, and twitch into my memory.


In exactly the same boat. 2 1/2 year old son, refusing to go sleep, and going to sleep late. The last two days he hasn’t had day time naps. The first night it worked great, he went to sleep fine and slept til 5, had a bottle and fell asleep our bed til 8. Last night, fell asleep fine, work up at 2, wanted a bottle, work up at 4.45, wanted a bottle, woke up at 6.15 wide awake. Not sure what we’re going to do tonight.
Verbs & Nouns
hindu
hindu
 
Posts: 839
Joined: Tue Aug 05, 2008 10:23 pm
Location: Australia, South

Re: dadness

Postby the finger genius on Wed May 23, 2018 5:07 am

I know most advice these days is to let kids eat when they're hungry and don't force it, one thing we've noticed is that there will be times when our kids go through growth spurts (or before after spurts) where they need food all the time and don't realize it until A. they're fucking starving and ready to kill anyone who looks at them wrong or B. it's two AM and they want a plate of sausages and a quart of milk. For these reasons, we're pretty strong willed about getting our kids to eat most of their dinner and we also try to get them to eat a bedtime snack right before we do our book routine. Sometimes this leads to fights about dinner but I'd generally rather have that than a hangry toddler at 2AM.
steve wrote:...kosher sound systems.


Eighteen Hundred and Froze to Death
User avatar
the finger genius
suspicious flashlight
suspicious flashlight
 
Posts: 1388
Joined: Sat May 31, 2008 10:04 pm
Location: NJ

Re: dadness

Postby rgauss on Wed May 23, 2018 11:46 pm

I know every kid is different but my experience is that there is a very narrow window when our son is easy to get to go down. Wait even 15 minutes too long and he gets that amped-up overtired thing going. Seems like if he's bathed and in bed for stories by 7:30, things go well. If I wait until 7:45 or 8:00, he's tossing and turning, asking for water, asking for the random toy that he's dropped out of bed, wanting to go to the bathroom, etc. The same thing happens around his naps.

FMtfg: we do the same. Won't deny him snacks, but definitely follow a three meals a day scheme.

Our little babu turned 3 yesterday. We gave him a drum set that he can reach the pedals on.
Image
User avatar
rgauss
robert rauschenberg
robert rauschenberg
 
Posts: 784
Joined: Tue Apr 11, 2006 6:26 pm
Location: nuevo mexico

Re: dadness

Postby Speedie on Thu May 24, 2018 3:00 am

Well, that 9 years went way too fast.

Bro hangouts post haircuts.

Image
Trey wrote:How great must a thread be to miss such a thing? Beans on the penis great, I suppose.



https://thegreenwhistle.bandcamp.com/releases
User avatar
Speedie
Humankind's Greatest Musical Genius
Humankind's Greatest Musical Genius
 
Posts: 4010
Joined: Thu Jan 24, 2008 12:36 am
Location: Downunderyourmother

Re: dadness

Postby the finger genius on Thu May 24, 2018 4:54 am

rgauss wrote:Our little babu turned 3 yesterday. We gave him a drum set that he can reach the pedals on.
Image


Awesome!
steve wrote:...kosher sound systems.


Eighteen Hundred and Froze to Death
User avatar
the finger genius
suspicious flashlight
suspicious flashlight
 
Posts: 1388
Joined: Sat May 31, 2008 10:04 pm
Location: NJ

Re: dadness

Postby Tom on Thu May 24, 2018 6:45 am

Re food... I don't support the "let the kids eat what they want when they want" attitude. In our experience, that's just a fast track to grazing on junk food all day. We don't make them eat every scrap on their plate, but there are set times to eat and we make it very clear that there isn't going to be any more food later. It doesn't always work - particularly with the younger one - I'm not going to be just ready to make them food at a whim and I don't want them eating pre made food all the time.

They're both getting into cooking now, which is great. Too young to do it by themselves, but I'm teaching them food\oven\knife safety right now with spaghetti and eggs. Going to move on to bread making soon.
Last edited by Tom on Mon Jun 18, 2018 3:06 pm, edited 1 time in total.
User avatar
Tom
Power Incarnate with Endless Creativity
Power Incarnate with Endless Creativity
 
Posts: 7803
Joined: Tue Jun 10, 2003 8:31 pm
Location: God's Hand

Re: dadness

Postby hylje on Thu May 24, 2018 8:49 am

Any awesome tips on how to make a 8 month old eat her solids? We think she is teething and doesn't want to eat anything but berries and fruit.

Today I wasn't the father of the year. I got really frustrated when she didn't eat anything, threw her toys on the floor and generally refused to co-operate. I feel like an idiot now.

And then she went and crawled on all fours for the first time, spurting towards her mom when she got back from work.
User avatar
hylje
hank williams
hank williams
 
Posts: 385
Joined: Wed Apr 23, 2008 2:12 am

Re: dadness

Postby Tom on Thu May 24, 2018 11:17 am

You tried the airplane thing yet? That actually works really well.

I wouldn't push the solids too much at 8 months. That's kind of a transition time (at least in my experience). If I recall at that age we were just putting a bunch of safe to eat foods in front of them and letting them taste and play with them.
User avatar
Tom
Power Incarnate with Endless Creativity
Power Incarnate with Endless Creativity
 
Posts: 7803
Joined: Tue Jun 10, 2003 8:31 pm
Location: God's Hand

Re: dadness

Postby jimmy spako on Thu May 24, 2018 11:36 am

Yeah, from my limited experience and having gone through that phase about a half year ago, I would say that it's perfectly fine to purée everything and keep trying solids occasionally to see if there is interest but not forcing it. I would be more focussed on exposing the baby to different tastes and trying to promote variety in whatever format they can deal with at the moment.
Isabelle Gall wrote:'Do not go smoothly into that dark night'
User avatar
jimmy spako
Master Of The Computer
Master Of The Computer
 
Posts: 4986
Joined: Sun Dec 02, 2007 10:49 am
Location: schnitzel circuit

Re: dadness

Postby hylje on Thu May 24, 2018 12:40 pm

By solids I mean every form of food that is not boobie.
Finnish health care system is weird with their recommendations. One year the parents are supposed to start feeding solids at this point, then some year they are supposed to breast feed until the baby turns 18 years or something. We are told that we should try to feed five meals per day, not including breast feeding and try to make the meals her primary source of food. It's bit difficult if she doesn't eat.
User avatar
hylje
hank williams
hank williams
 
Posts: 385
Joined: Wed Apr 23, 2008 2:12 am

Re: dadness

Postby jimmy spako on Thu May 24, 2018 1:45 pm

Ah, sorry! Yeah, starting with solid foods from six months on seems about right. The health benefits of breastfeeding are mostly within those first six months, after that they need people food.

We bought jars of baby food and tried out everything, some stuff went over well, some didn't. Fruits were always popular. We made our own puréed stuff and froze it in icecube trays too, took one cube out at a time and thawed and warmed them up.

Are you trying to substitute the food for nursing? Like offering a meal instead of the breast when the baby is hungry? At some point that transition has to happen.

Our little dude was also over the babyfood fast and into real people food. He had a number of teeth at eight months. If you are only doing puréed stuff, trying offering anything (I believe discounting individual sensitivities, everything is safe except honey). Again you might already be doing this.

Hang in there! Like Tom said, some days the delivery has to be very animated and maybe some days all of that is not necessary.

It's easy to lose your patience, don't beat yourself up. I've found it's very healthy to just see it at base as a job (a very important one) and be dispassionate and just slog through it, detach a little inside if you need to. You will still be able to switch into an emotionally involved mode often when you're feeling it. That was a good realisation for me: "this is not about how it feels to me, I just have to do a good job". That's kind of hard in its own way, but it frees you up to at least not be frustrated by your own frustration, if you get me. Maybe you are already thinking this way.
Isabelle Gall wrote:'Do not go smoothly into that dark night'
User avatar
jimmy spako
Master Of The Computer
Master Of The Computer
 
Posts: 4986
Joined: Sun Dec 02, 2007 10:49 am
Location: schnitzel circuit

Re: dadness

Postby hylje on Thu May 24, 2018 2:13 pm

jimmy spako wrote:It's easy to lose your patience, don't beat yourself up. I've found it's very healthy to just see it at base as a job (a very important one) and be dispassionate and just slog through it, detach a little inside if you need to. You will still be able to switch into an emotionally involved mode often when you're feeling it. That was a good realisation for me: "this is not about how it feels to me, I just have to do a good job". That's kind of hard in its own way, but it frees you up to at least not be frustrated by your own frustration, if you get me. Maybe you are already thinking this way.


That's a good advice! In a way I'm trying to do that already and most of the time I'm succeeding, but today and yesterday I wasn't doing a really good job with keeping my frustration at bay. And when you get your bearings you feel like an idiot when the little thing is smiling and being innocent.

She does eat sometimes. Maybe it's just the teething thing now. She is healthy, sleeps well, poops okay (although she hasn't pooped a real solid one in a while).
User avatar
hylje
hank williams
hank williams
 
Posts: 385
Joined: Wed Apr 23, 2008 2:12 am

Re: dadness

Postby djimbe on Thu May 24, 2018 3:10 pm

jimmy spako wrote:
It's easy to lose your patience, don't beat yourself up. I've found it's very healthy to just see it at base as a job (a very important one) and be dispassionate and just slog through it, detach a little inside if you need to. You will still be able to switch into an emotionally involved mode often when you're feeling it. That was a good realisation for me: "this is not about how it feels to me, I just have to do a good job". That's kind of hard in its own way, but it frees you up to at least not be frustrated by your own frustration, if you get me. Maybe you are already thinking this way.


this is a pretty great way of looking at it FM jimmy spako. Salut!
djimbe
cool kid
cool kid
 
Posts: 1465
Joined: Fri May 21, 2004 4:34 pm
Location: chicago

Re: dadness

Postby Anthony Flack on Thu May 24, 2018 4:29 pm

Can't be a perfect parent all the time. It's a job that requires infinite patience.

Frustration stems from desire so it's generally when you want something that you get angry. For instance trying to put a restless child to bed can be interminable if you are impatient to get on with doing something else, but if there's nowhere you'd rather be, it's fine. Spacing out is a skill: use it.

It's a job that's going to take up pretty much all of your time but only for a short while and then never again, so I just think ah, fuck everything else. It's not for long.

I used to buy all the different kinds of baby foods, of which there are many. Some of them were a hit, some of them were a big fail. Sometimes preferences would abruptly change. If one didn't work I'd try something else. I kept all the little jars too; they're great for holding screws and things like that. You'll never have a better opportunity to collect lots of little jars.

Before the baby food we started with baby rice, which is a powder you mix in with baby's milk to make a sort of milk-flavoured baby porridge. You can make as much or as little as you want at a time and I started out by just making a few spoonfuls up in the baby bottle cap and giving that before the milk. Later on started mixing baby food in with the baby rice and then baby food on its own.

And rusks of course when the teeth come in. Man this all seems a long time ago already. You won't believe how much mess can come out of a rusk.
Anthony Flack
Present-day God
Present-day God
 
Posts: 9312
Joined: Fri Aug 03, 2012 12:27 am
Location: New Zealand

Re: dadness

Postby rgauss on Thu May 24, 2018 6:09 pm

I know they've been mentioned before but these things are the shit:
Image
Take it with you everywhere you go and baby can just eat what your eating (assuming you eat healthy food). I don't think we ever purchased baby food.
User avatar
rgauss
robert rauschenberg
robert rauschenberg
 
Posts: 784
Joined: Tue Apr 11, 2006 6:26 pm
Location: nuevo mexico

Re: dadness

Postby the finger genius on Thu May 24, 2018 6:56 pm

Some sage advice on this page, thanks guys!
steve wrote:...kosher sound systems.


Eighteen Hundred and Froze to Death
User avatar
the finger genius
suspicious flashlight
suspicious flashlight
 
Posts: 1388
Joined: Sat May 31, 2008 10:04 pm
Location: NJ

PreviousNext

Return to General Discussion

Who is online

Users browsing this forum: Google [Bot], MRoyce and 15 guests